My Mommy Days

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Here i am sitting on the floor of my living room, thinking i should do some work. Mother's day doesn't mean i can quit motherhood for a day. But i am just giving myself excuse to i am free for a day from my 3 mischief but darling boys.

I decided to write. Write about my MOTHER! She grows up in a poor environment, gone thru lots of hard time, working for family as a maid during her teenage years. Her mother is so poor have to "sell" a daughter away. They were 4 sisters name after the flowers in mahjong (mui, lan,kok, chook).Mom never get proper education, she learn as she grow and work in various jobs that pays for a living in Ipoh, Perak.

So here I am boasting how lucky I am growing up well taken care of by my mother, spoilt by her with all her delicious cooking, pampered by her walking me to and from school. My father is an army officer and often being send to outstation and oversea for further training and promotions. My mother is always there for me and my brothers.

I can't remember well my childhood life before primary school. But during primary school (age 7-12) school starts at 7am. She will walk my brother and I to school with her little purse and a handkerchief slip between her armpit. She will hang around chatting with other mothers till we get into class. Very often I would cry for first 2 days.. god knows why.. just being a cry baby I guess. Then she would walk to the market buy whatever needed to cook for lunch and dinner for the day. My grandmother stays nearby and thus she will also buy food for her after marketing. She did all THESE BY JUST WALKING! If she would have FITBIT watch, her steps prolly exceeded what's permitted in the watch. I never bother to ask what she has been doing while I was in school. Now I wish I asked. During recess mom will pack food for us and wait in canteen. The moment we rush to canteen food is ready presented on table with VIP sitting. Not all children has got THAT privilege. I was spoilt and now appreciate. Now I know. On days either myself or my brother gets punished, and she don't see us during recess, she will go ballistic and hunt us down. She even scold teacher if they do not let us go for recess no matter how mischief we were we should be allowed to eat. THAT is MY MOTHER. SHE-RA must have base on her.

During school holidays, we will visit my father in Johor Bharu and that time ringgit and Singapore dollar is not much of difference in currency rate. During weekdays when daddy have to work, mommy will test on our multiplications. We will

visit Singapore every weekend and mom will prepare picnic lunch for all of us. That is so good! I do appreciate that. Then we will be visiting all different gardens in Singapore and shopping around all the malls. Camera at that time uses film. I love taking pictures and my brothers hate it. The trip is usually whole day. Night time driving across border always a jam. We always get supper before sleep. Either take away from the uncle fried kway teow on the way home or daddy gonna cook us Nissin instant noodle with egg! Love those days.

Fast forward to secondary school, mommy still prepare us food. Lunch and dinner. She always ensure all the dishes she cook we will clear them all out during dinner. Then you will see happiness in her face.

(mommy loves to travel when we were working she make sure yearly we will sneak the opportunity to travel oversea for the winter feel. Photo attached is when we were in korea)

Every morning she will do her washing with HANDS! Yes! no washing machine. buckets after buckets of washing clothes for 5 adults. The towels are hell! ( yes I experienced it just few months ago when the washing machine broke down and I had to get all clothes washed up ). How did she do it? How can she endure and no complains?

That's my super mom.

As I grow older, I understand better and will help to wash clothes on days like this mother's day and her birthday. Twice a year.... YES.... that's consider a treat for her(that's what I thought at that time ). I have no money to buy her gift I am still schooling! Kids now has savings and money easily.... I will cook instant noodle put it on table for my parents when they get up because I leave the house before they can get up. Have to struggle with office workers to get a seat on the bus to college! When I get home after college mommy always got treat for me. Chicken pie, her yummy mihun soup, or fried mihun. YES i love mihun.

Good thing that we all make her known that we TRULY love her cooking very much. She has always been very protective all my life. When I started working but do not drive, she will go fetch me from work with my father (daddy retired). No night outings No going out by myself. I will never understand WHY NOT! Now I know.

Fast forward to I finally Got Married(she is always worry that i wouldn't). Then she is always call up to chat and I will tell her I'm busy. Now I wish she could just call me to scold me. Few years after she got hit with STROKE badly. Got her bedridden and when she awaken from the stroke she said she didn't want to be sick like this. Lucky for us got her an assistant name Cristy that take good care of her till now. STROKE! We are still hopeful that she can recover one day.

Do not wait till your mother is sick or not around to tell her you love her you adore her and you appreciate her. She might not be able to feel or know how much you actually love her.

Regret is not what we are build for. Embrace and express love is not a wrong thing.

Go tell your mother or father that you love them very much and apologize if things has not been in good terms.

Do not take health lightly .Prevention is important. Love your family.